Trip to Vernal and a most unexpected “Nugget” found.

 

We were driving out to Vernal, Utah to look at a Studebaker 1953 Custom hot rod pickup truck I was interested in purchasing. We ended up purchasing a 1923 Ford Model T Roadster from a guy in Mapleton.

 

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Bryckelle had come along for the ride. She was pretty quiet in the back seat and Misty and I were enjoying the long ride and just chit-chatting about life events and what we desired in our future. What a great day.

When we arrived in Vernal, Utah, we called the man who was going to show us this Studebaker Hot Rod pickup truck. What a kind and friendly man. He had us follow him to his huge three building warehouse. When we arrived, we got out of our truck and had a friendly introduction in which we all shook hands and small talk.

He then leads us to one of his warehouses. We were pretty excited to see this Studebaker. During the past week, I had searched and completed a pretty in-depth research on this particular Studebaker build. I was really excited to see it in person. We had made the trip to Vernal, Utah with the desire to purchase this truck.

The man unlocked the ware house doors and asked us to wait outside as he went to turn the lights on. Oh, when the lights came on. What a thrill. This warehouse was stuffed like a sardine can. Full of antique muscle cars, the classics, and a few modern beauties. I must be clear of the vastness of this ware house. It was huge. Wall to wall mint condition cars and trucks. As we entered the ware house it was difficult to navigate around these vehicles and not brush up against them. He explained that the Studebaker that I was interested in was in the next ware house to the right. In order to get there, we had to walk to the back door of this warehouse and through another door we would find our Studebaker.

As we slowly made it through this first warehouse, we asked if he would mind if we took our time so we could admire each car as we went through. It was purely amazing. We saw Corvettes from many years, T-birds, classic Caddies, Ford Mercuries, Furies, a Dodge fast back Dart, Old 30’s ford pickup trucks that were pristine. New Ford F-150’s and Mustangs.

We then entered the second warehouse. The 1953 Studebaker was directly in front of us. It was the closest to the door. It was amazing. This ware house was also packed full of classics. Directly behind the Studebaker was a 1939 F-150 classic in excellent re-built condition. It was difficult for me to stay focused on the Studebaker in which we came to see. But I did, I inspected the ’53 Studebaker from top to bottom climbing under it and touching every bolt, spring, frame, and whatever else I could touch. This ’53 Studebaker was in perfect restored condition. It was beautiful and something to be admired. We checked under the hood and the motor was remarkable. Every inch of the engine and related parts had been chromed or polished aluminum. The brakes, calibers, springs, and every little connecting rods had also been chrome plated. This vehicle would blow anybody’s mind. It was one of those show cars that comments would be made about, “Attention to detail”.

After we had finished admiring and drooling over the Studebaker, the owner asked if we would like to tour the rest of his cars. We absolutely did. He took us around the other two warehouses and it was purely amazing. He had a had a 1955 Ford pickup that was restored and customized into a hot rod. He had more Cadillac, mustangs, T-birds, Fairlanes, Coupes, Olsmobiles, Grand Torinos, A Mustang BOSS Shellby, and many more. It was absolutely a thrill to be toured around his warehouses.

We went outside and discussed the cost to purchase this 1953 Studebaker R3 Show Truck. It was beautiful and the work on it was pristine. However, after seeing all of his other collection, I wondered if this truck was now the one I wanted to buy. We told him that we would get back to him after we had discussed it and decided the direction we wanted to go.

We left Vernal feeling really good. We had a great couple of hours walking through this gentleman’s museum of historic cars. What a collection and what an amazing man. Again, we were having such a wonderful day. It was a nice long drive through the mountains. He drove by many lakes and had nice long discussions with our daughter and my beautiful wife.

Now, with all of this being said, this was not the most amazing part of our day. Not even close. What happened when we got back to our home was the most amazing thing. We arrived home around 11:00pm. It was late. We were all exhausted. Each of us taking turns showering and putting our jammies on. Bryckelle was about to get in the shower and Misty checked her phone for missed messages. I was gathering my P.J.’s so I could shower next. Misty then became emotional as she read something on her phone. She went and gave Bryckelle a big hug and said, “Thank you so much, I love you too”. I inquired what Misty had read? Misty told me that I would have to read it myself. Bryckelle, was now in the shower and I was too last to get my phone off the charger so I continued to beg Misty to read whatever it was that she found.

So Misty did. Wow… What a “nugget for life”. These are the moments that parents treasure forever. These are the times that pull everything back into real perspective. Simple sentences written for no occasion. Words written out of love from a teenage daughter to her parents expressing a rare truth that will burn in my soul forever.

Now, about the awesome warehouses packed full of classic hot rod cars. So fantastic and pristine that would certainly make any man crazy with boyish dreams. Shattered by comparison by a simple letter put on Facebook by my daughter. I’ll always remember the driver to Vernal to check out the 1953 Studebaker. I always remember the tour of dream cars and the thrill of seeing the classics. But nothing will ever compare or compete with a simple post from my daughter, Brykelle, and the wonderful message of love for her parents. These precious moments are so rare. I would rather keep this Facebook post in my “Nugget Folder” for the rest of my life then to have purchased any of the classic cars we saw that day.

What made this trip to Vernal precious? The post from Bryckelle on our drive that we were unaware of until bedtime. Thank you Bryckelle, these are the moments that change everything.

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Bryckelle’s Facebook Post: (8/18/2018)

 

It’s not a special day or anything.

I just wanted to take the time to talk about my parents and how much they affect my life every day.

My dad, he is such a hard worker and even though he may seem like a very angry guy he really understands and cares about others.

I want him to know that he’s not alone in his struggles and I really look up to him even though it may not seem like it at times.

I love that when he puts his mind to something he works for it and accomplishes it.

I love that and that’s something that I take after him.

I love him dearly and would do anything for him.

 

My beautiful mom, she’s so caring and will do anything for others.

I know that she can get frustrated with her job at times but always seems to find a way through the rough patches in the best way possible.

Her beauty can be beyond compare at times and I’m glad to have her in my life.

I wish them the best for both of my parents and thank them a lot for what they have taught me and how they’ve raised me to be… well whatever this is. 😹 love you guys lots. ❤️

Rules of Life.

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I wrote this letter to all of my children a few months ago. I heard a lot of these things years ago while I was listening to The Glenn Beck Show. I wrote them down then thinking that some of these little truths would come in handy one day.

I was thumbing through one of my “Nugget Books” the other day. Oh…my “Nugget Books”. Maybe I ought to explain what my nuggets are.

I have a few three ring binders that I have kept what I call “my little nuggets”. I actually have two nugget locations. One is in my bible. I love my bible. My bible is one of the most precious things I own. Of course, the bible should be considered sacred and treasured, but I’ve spent many years studying it and I’ve marked up literally every page with notes and  personal thoughts. It has been both a link to my testimony of my Savior and kind-of a journal that  I’ve kept throughout my life.

So, my nuggets are kept in the front pocket of the bible caring case. A pouch full of pictures with my life moments that are precious to me. I’ve got pictures of all my children when they were young, vacations, dates with my wife and so on. I also added to this pictures of bad memories that are part of the design of who I am. Life isn’t just the good stuff. My nuggets are mostly filled with my immediate family stuff or events that shaped my life. Some of the “shaping of my life” stuff are my struggles and difficulties. Some of my nuggets are the difficult times in my life that have had great influence in graphing the road in which I traveled.

I guess the best way to describe me would be simply to take these nuggets and read through them one by one and live my life as things took place. I have kept these nuggets as a journal per say. My wife, Misty, does scrap books, and I keep my nuggets. My nuggets are kept as truthful actual documents, letters, and photos and notes of how I felt or what I learned from experiences in which happened in my life.

Okay, there you go. A whole page of mumbo-gumbo to explain what my nugget’s are. Now to the point of this letter. Years ago, Glenn Beck read a letter on his talk radio show about life lessons and truths to live by. As I listened, I kept notes. I want to be clear, that some of these came from the wisdom of others and I have added some of my own. I wrote a letter to all of my children a few months ago and listed these to them as nuggets to live by. This is what I wrote:

In this letter I’m writing you I’m adding my personal beliefs and values. I took the time to really reach into my soul and define what it is that I really believe. These values could be accurately described as my “Value Nuggets”. Possibly, you will be able to find value in this letter and save this in an important location of your own. Maybe you will find this someday unexpectedly and reread it or share it to someone you care about.

What I believe….

  1. Relish in your differences among your peers rather than trying to be like others. Just know who you are. Don’t pretend to be like the bunch; even the majority. Even if you stand alone. It’s okay to be different; just be right. Stand for something. Stand for yourself.
  2. Be consistent. Stand strong. Don’t be easily swayed. Don’t follow…be the leader.
  3. The worst thing in life you can do is dishonor yourself or your family and then go on living a life without setting it straight.
  4. Marry for love. Marry for laughs, but most importantly, marry with God. Life’s storms are too strong to withstand on your own.
  5. Wealth and fame are an illusion.
  6. The only times I’ve truly been miserable is when I was lying to myself and others.
  7. Alcohol and drugs make life easier for a very short time and then they destroy. Truly destroy everything!
  8. There is no experience that is “bad”. Experience just “is”. It’s what you do with that experience or how you use it. Will it shape your life for the better and help you become a stronger person? Or will you allow those experiences to smother and destroy you? It’s ultimately your choice on how you will be defined.
  9. Find your eternal purpose. Nobody was born by mistake. Never for a moment believe God makes mistakes. Never! Discover what your purpose is. Possibly this is done through prayer. Ask God what your purpose is and don’t quit asking until He answers. Be satisfied by His answer. Don’t anticipate yours.
  10. Always carry a picture of somebody you admire. (Nugget).
  11. Don’t let life wash over you wave after wave. You are NOT a rock!! Learn from these waves. Learn from the currents. Choose to sail. Don’t sink. SWIM.
  12. “I am that I am” is the most important phrase in any language, as it is the name of God. NEVER us it in vain. Use it to create who you want to be. “I am…blank. But, know if you don’t fill that blank in, someone else will. You can ignore it, but if you do, it will be filled in by others or just life. There will always be many who will try to fill that blank in but only you can fill it in and be happy.
  13. The Lord lives and He is present. He loves you personally and He’s always there to help. But… we have to train ourselves to hear it. We have to develop  and use our faith. (This is personal. This is done on our inside. Our souls. Our spiritual self). And exercise this faith. It is like a muscle. The more we use it the louder He becomes.
  14. Serve Him in all things. Stand where He asks you to stand, for you have a purpose. Your job is just to remember who you are. Remember what you agreed upon.
  15. We are meant to be happy, but remember, “no pain, no gain”. Life is hard, then it gets harder. Yes, harder! Then we die! But, every single second is worth it.
  16. Always say what you mean to say.
  17. Turn the other cheek and always forgive. But don’t forget so much that you put yourself in the same situation.
  18. Make these things true because you know they are true. “Know what you know!”. Seriously, write it down. Write…”this is what I know is true…” . Make a list. How hard is it to actually write down the things that you “know” are true. It is amazing how much we pretend to believe. Know what you know. Be confident in what you know to be true. Know what you believe in. Write it down. Not knowing what you believe in makes you weak. Period.
  19. You have everything you need to be happy. Be satisfied.
  20. Freedom. Rights are given to man through God. They are His. Protect them. You are the guardian. Hand them down to your children.
  21. You are never alone and there is never trouble that is beyond help.
  22. Refined manner, gentleness, meekness, and kindness will be the currency of any value. Stuff doesn’t matter. Deposit everyday virtues that ensure a great future and legacy.
  23. Forgiveness is divine. The atonement of Christ is real. You are worthy! Hell is also real and for eternity of regret not being able to forgive yourself. We all make mistakes. Big ones. Christ is your only Advocate. Trust Him. Forgive yourself.
  24. People are good. For the most part, they want to do the right thing. Give them an opportunity. However, be wise!
  25. It’s never wrong to do the right thing. (Use this in tough decisions).
  26. Learn to love others that you don’t know or really don’t like. This is possible, but takes a leap of faith and patience.
  27. Read the bible as much as you can. For some reason this is a difficult task to start. Maybe a pride thing? If you cannot seem to do this on your own, find a study group or church. The bible is your life map. The bible is alive today. God does speak to you through it. (This may seem ridiculous to a non-believer. This is true. Please, try it before dismissing it).
  28. There are no coincidences in life.
  29. Learn, laugh, and love.
  30. Pray on your knees. God is watching. If you need God to take you seriously, Take Him seriously.
  31. How big is your God? Is he a tiny god with limitations or a Almighty, Magnificent, all knowing God? If you believe in a tiny god, then don’t expect big miracles. If you believe in One Almighty God, then He makes everything possible and beyond wonders.
  32. To whom much is given, much is required. Remember this. You have been given the world and beyond.
  33. Only date those that love you as much as your parents. Only date who will treat you as we have tried.
  34. Never want anything to much. You’ll always end up paying too high a price one way or another.
  35. Life goes by way too fast.
  36. There is order in all things. There is wrong and there is right. You know the difference.
  37. Live like you know God is watching. Know that He is.
  38. What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
  39. The hardest thing to do is to admit failure and weakness. Only the very strong do this.
  40. Financial integrity has a lot to do with character. The smartest thing to do is avoid debt. Failing that, pay your debt on time. Honor your agreements. Honesty in all your dealings is a must. Quickly, you can ruin your reputation simply by not honoring your debt obligations. Proving you character often requires an evaluation of your debt payment history.
  41. Your parents love you and your Heavenly Father loves you.
  42. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come. As long as we have today, it’s never too late.
  43. Question everything with boldness. Challenge everything. However, do this with wisdom and not arrogance. This takes practice and skill. Your wisdom will come from properly place questions, searching in right places, and practicing moral behaviors. Thus, gaining experiences from your own failures. Know that the educated of this time are growing arrogant  is self-worth and self-worship. This arrogance leads to darkness.
  44. Respect others. Even if….it doesn’t matter. Respect them anyway.
  45. More importantly, don’t forget to respect yourself.

Well, what do you think? Anything here of value? Anything here that you agree with?

I want you all to know that all of these little “nuggets” I believe. I once was in a a dark place in my life. I was told by a wise person to write down the things that I truly believed in. I tried. I found that I couldn’t write down anything. To me, that moment was a life changing time. I was tired of wondering through life with no purpose or direction. I wanted to believe in something. So off I went with desire to find something to believe in. The future was mine to define.

These “nuggets” are earned. Please know that to know these things takes effort. Yes, they’re fun to read and sound really smart. Take no short cuts in life. If you really need to find substance and meaning in life, don’t think these values are coming in the mail someday. Life is a serious matter. You were born with a divine purpose. The only way you can really believe in things worth believing in are to search. Search with purpose and search with locating the conclusion.

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Silhouette Worth

Silhouette Worth

To Bryckelle, my beautiful daughter who wrestles with depression and worth…

 

Pray tell my value.

Speak now my worth.

For by what tool to measure?

What honor must you possess

Given you authority to assess?

Shall I be authenticated by potential?

Skill, talent, beauty, genealogy or gender?

Is it dress, color, education, or even geological location?

Possibly, the mold that I must muster,

Maybe in your eyes is even theological?

 

If I appear beneath your caliber

May I be so bold to tell

I need not your meager approval

Frankly spoken, I may insist

You, yourself may be amiss.

 

Reflections back from what I see.

Is the perfect Silhouette, My God to me.

Again, I ask, pray tell my value?

Speak now my worth.

comprehension immeasurable but by God alone,

perfection upon creation is surely shown.

Dennis Webber 2017

I wrote this to my beautiful daughter last year. She struggles, as most young teenage girls to find purpose, value, understanding, and self-worth. Sometimes we try to be “better”. Our souls are fixed with God. God doesn’t make mistakes. God created us individually on purpose. No accident happened upon our unique creation. So why do our critics in life look down on us? I have no idea. But what I do know and what I attempted to portray in this little poem is how God looks at us. The picture of the chess pawn looking in the mirror and seeing a King. Yes, indeed a King through the eyes of our Savior. When we get down, remember our worth. Remember our value through the eyes of our almighty God.